
Once I decided that I would be healed from the wounds of broken vows and this broken relationship, I knew I had to have a plan for recovery. There is no way to sustain healing without a plan to live healed. I had to consider the best ways to help myself and my children through divorce and create an atmosphere of wholeness and healing for them. That included having a working relationship with their father. That took planning.

While I was on the path to divorce recovery, I got sick. Not just flu or pneumonia - disablingly ill. For nearly two years I battled illness in addition to awesome nature of this huge life change, going from having a husband and a full nuclear family to being a divorced woman with children. I had actively engage as a focused advocate for my family AND advocate for myself in a sea of doctors, specialists and human resource people for my health and our financial livelihood. It took a plan.
Annually reviewing the outcome of my choices, I question whether I've lived up to the standard I set and if my life is in a desirable condition. Am I living how I want? Did I achieve anything? Was I a good parent, sister, daughter, friend, servant of the Lord? Did I do all that I could to represent Christ on this earth? Was my stewardship equal to the mandate of my Christian life (did I spend my money, time and gift accountably?) Did I do anything to bring something good into the world? What do I need to do going forward?
At this very moment you are sowing seeds that will
bear fruit in the next season of your life. You reap what you sow. In order to influence what your
gonna reap, you have to be cognizant; aware of what you've planted and plan to plant better or differently. I call this process
Vision Casting.
"Choice, not chance creates our destiny."
Bishop C. Garnett Henning

Consider springs preparation
for summer - what an easy correlation. We all know the idiom that April showers bring
May flowers; or that Spring comes in like a lion and goes out like a lamb. These both suggest that a certain condition (rain, wind, temperature) affect another condition (vegetation, temperature, bounty). There is a connected process; real evidence that its a cause and effect thing. What nature does in the spring affects the conditions of the summer.
For my personal vision casting, I block out uninterrupted time to give it my full attention. Get a room in a nice hotel, put out the do not disturb sign and try NOT fall asleep, but focus on the task at hand. (
Yes, I have so gotten a room for the weekend with this intention and spent most of that time sleeping. Hmm...being a woman is hard in an ADD world!) Get some comfy lounge wear, pencil and paper, nice comforting music and energy food, and go for it - dig into it. Start with a free flow of writing about the year in review.

You could Vision Cast without reviewing, but I believe the results are
just better if you know who you are. To know that is to bear in mind
from whence you came. Talking or writing about the successes and
failures of this past year gives a tangible, concrete picture and
positions us for new growth.
Intrinsically, I know the
value of looking at the past before making a new plan. One of the most credible reasons for review is supported by the very existence of the Bible - a look at the past of our Christian faith to show us how to live in the right now.
We live in a world of situational attention
deficiency - there is just too much going on. Our fast paced technologically sustained world and the
constant situations that arise won't allow us to effectively store the
detailed plan in our minds. To move steadily through an experience like divorce we need the presence of
peace and purpose with a steadfast hope for those things to come.

The word of God plainly mandates us to record our visions to make them
understandable, which will give us the strength to stay focused in
fulfilling them. Writing it down, taking it from your mind and making it
tangible, takes some of the chaos out of living.
Do you do something similar to vision casting in your life? How has it
helped you? Do you believe that not making a plan is still the same
thing as making choices about your standard of living? What have you
read, heard or experienced that helps you manage your life? Share it with me in the comments section.
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Being that I'm on the journey of a divorce I often found myself asking those same questions.With much prayer and staying secluded and putting pen to paper I find that sowing good seeds through this rough sea is best. This is very rough for me but I know and trust God and staying in the word will get me through.
ReplyDeleteIt is a rough transition, however, it is important to remember that this too shall pass. Right now you are going through a transition period, but change comes to move us forward, never backwards. You express a faith in your response, so I feel confident in telling you that an important step for me was grieving what was past and forgiving. Ask God to give you direction in forgiveness,healing and wholeness. I found that I had to let go of some people, places and things and focus on the basics - I think that is what you mean by 'secluded' - but reach out in some other directions when you feel strong enough to do so. Try meetup.com and find a group of people that don't know your past so you can step out in a new direction anonymously. I will keep you in my prayers.
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