I saw the movie 'Act like a Woman, Think Like a Man' with my sisters, which we took for what it was, and had a great time. We did not look at the book or the movie as a manifesto for relationships, but just as Steve Harvey's book based on what he saw happening to women in relationships. It was funny, intuitive and a good read.
The movie was the same - funny, intuitive, and a blast. The soundtrack is awesome. There is a new artist on the soundtrack, Ravaughn, and she appears to be produced by Ne-Yo. Her song is "Same Ol' BS" and the video is below.
(Warning - lyrics include the word BS -just in case you are not intuitive enough to figure that out from the title)
Her voice is awesome. The lyrics reminded me of conversations I have had with friends. Am I really ready to date again, or am I avoiding it because I realize that I am going to encounter the same ol' BS? I don't doubt that God can make a good man. I doubt that man can maintain goodness. What I want is not to have to compromise.
Ne-Yo released a song that reminded me the days I most enjoyed about being married. It's called Lazy Love, and it is below. It is a tiny bit explicit - just a little bit. I just remember loving those days and I don't ever want to have to reconcile that with infidelity again.
I'm a little gun shy on relationships. That's part of the reason why I'm celibate. I cannot reconcile that with God and come to a compromise. (Go figure - God doesn't compromise!) I am not to the place where I want a union with another person. The state of our society doesn't suggest that there is a reason for a man to be good until he is tired of being bad. Even a supposedly saved man can wander. I have too much to do to be bothered with that duality.
I feel so much better emotionally not subjecting myself to the emotional childishness and lack of discipline many men walk around sporting like a badge. I know my limitations, and I 'm not really good at sex as sport, so I abstain. I found that I can't give all of myself to a person if I don't trust that he isn't giving parts of himself to others.
Where do you find yourself on this issue? I know it's a matter of trust. How often should you extend trust to another individual? What are your thoughts? I want to hear them...
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